In short, am I comfortable now? From this magical question I started a really exciting road of observation in the dance – observation of myself, partner and movement. Following this road is not always pleasant and easy, especially in the beginning. Sometimes it comes with physical and mental discomfort which is normal when we experience something unusual and strange. But eventually, it gives freedom and brings new profundity and possibilities of body, hence of your and your partner's mutual dance.
And this is by no means the same as controlling the movement. Control means to stop, to capture and to dissect. But stopping is incompatible and contradictory to dancing. Observation means evenly following what happens and changing the situation on time when you are not happy about it. Only while being conscious of the movement process, you are able to realize when and where a possibility of change appears.
When you start observing, you may see many excessive things. Here I can relax. And here, for some reason, I made this stupid movement I dislike so much in others. And here I could avoid rushing.