Certainly, on the way to this kind of dancing there are dangers and roadblocks. Some men might basically not accept the concept of a woman leading. Or they might just not know how to follow. And some of them, even if they don't mind this kind of leading and they know how to follow, they simply can't understand what is happening when a dialogue occurs. Because most of the times men are absolutely not used to this kind of feeling expressions from ladies. In the second and the third option, the skill of following can be acquired in the same way we learn to do back sacadas: with pain during practicing and with tears afterwards. But in case this approach is totally not accepted, it is obvious that the follower's dance will be under the pressure of such leaders.
Most commonly, ladies have the same problems. They might believe that leading is completely the responsibility of men, so let them suffer for that. They might not know how to lead. And they may not be careful enough towards the couple. In the first case it is the same as for men – this is not your destiny. In the second case the skill is also acquired rather simply, you only need to cover a few thousands kilometers on the dancefloor. The third case implies a tectonic shift in terms of understanding the lead, and it also can be learned with some time, if there is a will.